It is ok to fight but when you are fighting your own blood, it’s not just the ground rules that change, but the ground shifts.
This was a confrontation he was not prepared for. Like any wise man, he went inside to cool off. He decided to pray and God was listening but He wasn’t speaking. He opened his eyes expecting change but there was nothing. He prayed again. He wanted to hear sounds of truce but the cruel reality was nothing was going to change. The words of his wife pinged in his mind, “I told you.”
He didn’t want to admit it but tagging his nephew along was a mistake. They had become inseparable. He remembered being told,
“Get out of your country, your family and from your father’s house to a land I will show you,” and now their relationship had reached the tipping point.
They were both very rich in livestock, in silver and in gold but money couldn’t buy him peace of mind neither could it heal the ruptured relationships between them and between their servants. Even the land where they were staying together couldn’t support them because of their great possessions.
Abram and Lot had to separate.
Abram decided to call for a cease fire meeting. He took the high moral ground and called his nephew Lot,
“Please let there be no strife between you and me, and between my herdsmen and your herdsmen; for we are brothers. Please separate from me. If you take the left, then I will go to the right; or if you go to the right, then I will go to the left.” – Genesis 13:8-9
Lot lifted his eyes and saw the beauty and the lush plains of Jordan and didn’t flinch or think twice. He departed for Jordan and Abram was left alone.