Multi-award winning gospel singer, Kirk Franklin, has admitted that he was a ‘fool’ and a ‘punk’ in the first year of his marriage.
Franklin, who has been married to Tammy for 20 years, took a trip down memory lane, making a pit stop at one of the worst fights of his marital life – one where he nearly sent his wife away on a plane before a big performance.
Sharing an image of him and tammy in a sweet embrace on the very spot where they had the fight, the gospel singer narrated what happened that fateful day.
“Twenty years ago me and Tammy (bad grammar) had the worst fight at this very spot. Married for just a couple of months we had a fight right here as soon as we landed,” the Smilehit-maker recalled.
“Being the hot headed fool I was, I bought her a plane ticket and told her to go back home while I headed to my performance… [I was] such a fool. It hurt her, like it should have….to be so easily sent away,” he narrated.
But why would he treat his new bride so harshly?
“See, I was a runner when I was younger, I’d push you away out of fear of you leaving on your own. Tammy tolerated way more than she should have. I sat in that airport and cried like baby, delaying the concert. [I was] such a punk, pushing my woman away,” he wrote.
Realising the error of his ways, Frankilin apologised to Tammy.
“I begged her to forgive me. Thank God she did. [I] never did that again and now look at us!” he posted.
He ended his post by asking women to give their men second chances, as this could change their trajectory of their relationship.
“A patient (not foolish) woman can change a man’s narrative. Give him a chance or two to grow up, but don’t make a sequel out of it. Glad that scene of the movie is over!”
Most fans responded positively to his post, with many thanking Kirk for his vulnerability, adding that they have learned a lot from his experience.
One family lawyer, Crystal L. Welch, took issue with the lesson that Franklin draw from his experience: urging women to give men second chances.
“With all due respect, I love how a man can commit a million wrongs and still find a way to use his shortcomings to school women. This would’ve been the perfect opportunity to school men on how not to act, as opposed to encouraging women to patiently settle in the hopes that he won’t do it again,” she responded.
She argued that Franklin’s takeaway from the situation was an example of “patriarchal domination”, adding that he should have used the story to tell men to step up.
“As a family law attorney, I see more and more women giving men second chances because that’s what we’re “trained” to do in order to keep a man, and they rarely change. But when will men start calling other men out for not being a man?” she asked.
This is not the first time that Kirk Franklin has taken to social media to talk about his marital life. In January, he said he would never be unfaithful to Tammy because cheating on her would be like cheating on God.