His typical greeting when receiving a call or posting a message on WhatsApp is an irritating, ‘Bwana asifiwe sister.’
Stereotypically, this sort of guy would make a very good husband or partner, seeing that he exhibits qualities of a responsible man.
We talked to some Nairobi girls who explained why they ‘dislike’ the ‘church boy.’
1. Sex is for procreation
In the book of 1 Corinthians 7:1-40, the Bible reads in part: “The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise, the wife to her husband…therefore, do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time.”
The Bible is very clear why a man and wife should in deed have lungula for pleasure. Also, Songs of Solomon, roundly approves sex for pleasure. However, some saved men are willing to sacrifice their marriages if their wives suggest any ‘ungodly’ sex positions
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In 2007, a 60-year-old saved man, Francis Njoroge, called his pastor to pray for his 53-year-old wife for suggesting a very strange sex position.
“I cannot live with a woman who behaves like this,” he fumed. They finally had to involve elders to help them solve their bedroom issues.
2. They love shiny suits
Saved men are bad dressers, according to the women.
“Most of them wear shiny, bright and coloured suits, with coats long enough to sweep sins from here to Timbuktu. That bedsheet of a suit is complemented with ‘sharp-shooter’ shoes that can easily be used to slaughter a cow. It’s like this dress code brings them closer to God,” said Elina Nzilani, a 26-year-old journalist.
