The typical scenario of sexual frustration is that of a young husband who wants more sex than his wife wants to give him. Younger women need to understand that their husbands normally need more sex than they do. Just as they want their husbands to meet their needs in a sacrificial and sensitive manner, they need to do the same for their husbands in the area of sex. Generally speaking, men have the need for sex and women have the gift of sex. They need to give that gift generously. It is essential for a good marriage.
Another very common scenario that isn’t talked about as much is an older woman who wants more sex than her husband. Even though this can happen at any age, it is more common for a man’s sex drive to drop as they get older as their wife’s libido actually increases.
Men experience a decrease in their level of testosterone as they grow older. This is the main reason for a decreased sex drive. As women grow older and lose the fear of pregnancy, grow more comfortable expressing their sexuality and have less responsibility with children, they often desire more sex.
Just as a young man wants his wife to be energetic and enthusiastic regarding his sexual needs, the same holds true as a couple ages. It doesn’t matter if you have the same desire as your spouse. The only thing that matters is that they have the desire and are dependant upon you to meet it. This is what makes a good marriage when both spouses care enough about each other to sacrificially serve each other and meet each others needs.
Is your spouse sexually satisfied? Do they feel comfortable sharing with you their needs and desires? Are you willing to meet their needs even if you don’t understand them or share them? Are you willing to change or get medical help if necessary?
We need to honestly evaluate our attitudes toward sex. The eighty-something year old couple reminds us, this issue is going to be around for a while. It’s either going to bring us together or keep us apart. And ultimately it will either fulfill us or frustrate us.
